Updated: Apr 3, 2020
For a long time, the idea that honesty is the best policy has been drilled into our brains. But, is honesty truly always the best policy? This week, Alysa and her former student turned friend, Lauren sat down to discuss the role honesty has in relationships. The answer is that there isn’t an exact answer.
Listen to the episode *here* to get the whole scoop and hear Alysa and Lauren’s advice on how and when to effectively incorporate honesty into your relationships. While you really need to listen to the podcast to be able to go in-depth enough for this topic, here are three basic things to think about when considering the role knowledge plays in your relationships.
1. What kind of honesty do you desire from your friends? Are you looking more for cheerleaders or for people who are going to give you brutal honesty? Maybe you fall somewhere in the middle. No matter what you prefer, it’s important to make sure you and your friends are on the same page, or else it might lead to some hurt feelings or a weaker friendship.
2. Recognize that there is a spectrum for honesty. Depending on the situation, the level of expected honesty will be different than other situations. This is why it’s good to consider your personal integrity regarding honesty. Is it acceptable to tell white lies for politeness and safety? Do you expect total honesty from your partners about their pasts? Are you comfortable being honest 100% of the time?
3. Learn how to express your honesty in a healthy way. During the podcast Alysa shares a great three step process explaining how to be honest in a way that will benefit your friendship, not hurt it. Sometimes honesty can be tough because we don’t always know how a friend will react to something. This is why it’s important to be thoughtful in the way you do it.
Honesty is an interesting subject. Many people have a lot of different opinions about what is an acceptable amount. People tend to feel very strongly about this topic as well.
It can be tricky to navigate but with some thought and communication with those closest to you, honesty can end up being one of the greatest tools in building a strong relationship.